- Pick up the phone. Human interaction should be a sensual experience. Face-to-face interaction can play on all of your senses (if you're wondering about touch and taste, I concede that they're only sometimes part of the interaction). The phone - AT LEAST - let's you put your hearing to work. E-mails and texts stimulate exactly none of your senses. That's why people need emoticons, LOLs, BIG BLUE FONT, and all of the other artificial devices that are supposed to compensate for the sterility of e-mail and text (when all they really do is murder subtlety and insult intelligence). All that to say that if you can't be in the room with someone, and you have something of substance to say or to discuss, pick up the damn phone (and yes, I heartily endorse Skyping as an even better alternative sometimes).
- Give people, tasks, and all other important things your full and undivided attention. When you're with somebody, be with them - not the collection of people in your contact list. When you're studying for an exam, turn off the music, the tv, and the phone. When you're at work, work; when you're driving, drive; and when you're walking, walk. Don't assume that because you can multi-task, you should.
If you don't believe me on this point, try a simple experiment. Spend a full 30 minutes writing an important (and lengthy) e-mail while simultaneously watching something (with substance) on tv. Now spend 30 minutes writing another e-mail of equal importance in absolute silence, followed by 30 minutes watching the same tv show. Compare the two e-mails. You know which one will be better. And if your e-mails are equally good, notice how much you missed the first time you watched the show on tv. Now ask yourself, would I rather do two things in 30 minutes half-assedly, or two things really well in 60 minutes? Even if you'd rather have the extra half-hour to do two more half-assed things, ask yourself what you're doing to people you interact with when you give them only half (or one-third, or one-quarter) of your attention. - Don't be lazy about quality. Spellcheck is not the same as re-reading something before you send it. Capitalize words that should be capitalized. Capitalize names. Use punctuation. Make sure that your resume is not only pretty, it's also error-free. Take some time to ask if and how your e-mail or text can be interpreted by someone who wasn't in your head at the time you wrote it. I realize there are times when it's not worth the effort to worry about quality. But I don't believe it's something you can or should turn on and off.
a) I'm communicating this electronically,
b) while I've been writing this I've also been checking my e-mail, making dinner and listening to music, and
c) I don't have time to read over what I've just writtin.
"how technology is undermining the basics of human interaction," ... 2 words for you: Skype
ReplyDeleteJRT - Are you saying you don't like Skype, or you do? I just had a really good Skype experience with my daughter who just went off to University...
ReplyDeleteI clearly remember two conversations in the car on a road trip with my favourite brother - one a couple of years ago while he was in the midst of personnel and location negotiations, and had numerous conversations with a growth in his ear, and one a couple of months ago in which the only interruptions were from the back seat, where his daughter needed a change of show on the ipad. One has become a cherished memory. One - not so much.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, thank you. I did not know I was your favourite. Secondly, I have since done away with the growth in my ear. I talk to my car now.
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